13 March 2008

Le dos de mon père

eRenlai consacre son focus du mois au thème de la paternité. En chinois, le magazine et le focus ont titré: 父親,不只有背影 , ce qui signifie "Un père n'est pas seulement un dos" (la traduction - de mon crû - n'est sûrement pas la meilleure, mais j'ai voulu garder la dimension involontairement comique de l'histoire).

En effet, le titre chinois fait référence à un texte apparemment incontournable des études secondaires à Taiwan : Dos (背影,
voir le texte original en chinois) de Zhu Ziqing (朱自清) (1925). Le narrateur raconte sa relation avec son père qui connait des déboires professionnels et affectifs : jeune garçon puis adolescent, il voit la déchéance financière de son père qui doit payer les funérailles de sa mère et pour cela hypothéquer la maison familiale. Un jour, le fils doit se rendre a Nanjing et le père décide de l'accompagner. S'ensuit une scène poignante durant laquelle le père du narrateur décide d'acheter des fruits pour que son fiston ait de quoi grignoter pendant le trajet. Le narrateur verse alors de chaudes larmes en évoquant la silhouette grassouillette de son père qui doit descendre un parapet pour aller acheter les fruits. Le texte s'achève ensuite sur la décrépitude du père qui devient acariâtre a la fin de sa vie et passe son temps à accabler de reproches son entourage.

Mon chinois n'est peut-être pas assez bon pour saisir toutes les subtilités littéraires du texte (il me faut en effet faire un effort d'imagination assez considérable pour percevoir l'aspect dramatique et poignant de la situation), mais je crois que je peux ressentir ce que tente de décrire le narrateur quand je me réfère à mon expérience personnelle : dire au-revoir a quelqu'un et avoir l'impression que c'est la dernière fois que l'on voit sa silhouette s'éloigner de dos. Ne dit-on pas en français que "partir, c'est mourir un peu"?...
Chers amis,

eRenlai ayant connu une forte hausse de sa fréquentation, nous avons changé de serveur et le site est encore plus rapide qu’avant. Lors de ce transfert, le site a connu quelques interruptions, veuillez nous en excuser.

Certains d’entre vous le savent déjà, Ricci/Renlai participe à l’organisation d’une conférence internationale sur « les Ressources Culturelles du Développement Durable » (le 25 avril à Shanghai), Monsieur Jacques Chirac sera l’intervenant principal.
Le programme détaillé en anglais ainsi que le formulaire d’inscription sont en ligne.

Ce mois-ci, réfléchissez avec nous sur
le sens de la paternité : pères et fils nous font partager leurs réflexions et leurs souvenirs.

Hubert Kilian vient tout juste d’être papa, il nous raconte son expérience. Chao Chin-chih évoque, lui, les joies et les peines d’élever son enfant seul.
Etre parent, c’est aussi éduquer. Ainsi, Bob soutient que nous sommes tous des «
parents intérimaires » tandis que Darren Schell témoigne de son expérience de professeur d’anglais à Taiwan.

Par ailleurs, vous pouvez écouter et lire des
paroles d’enfants sur leur papa ou les tendres souvenirs de Gao Lao.


En cette période électorale (Taiwan, France, Etats-Unis…), Li-Chun commente le débat entre les deux candidats à la présidentielle taïwanaise:
Air-conditioned Democracy. Quant à Benoît et Bob, ils analysent respectivement l’acte de voter et la participation citoyenne dans le developpement local. Dans une toute autre partie du monde, Aurélie Kernaleguen présente le problème de la déforestation en Nouvelle Zélande.

Sans oublier notre toute nouvelle homepage où vous pourrez regarder des
éditoriaux filmés de Bob et Mei. Il s’agit encore d’un coup d’essai alors n’hésitez pas à nous faire part de vos remarques !
Dear Friends,

Due to the growing success of eRenlai, we just changed server, and this caused some disruptions. Now, the website runs even more rapidly than before…

As many of you already know, Ricci/Renlai is involved in an international conference on “Cultural Resources for Sustainable Development”, Shanghai, April 25, former President Jacques Chirac being the main speaker.
Full program and registration forms are now online.

Go to our monthly focus and reflect with us on
the meaning of fatherhood. Fathers and children share their memories and their testimonies:

Hubert Kilian just had a baby, he tells us about his experience as a young father. Chao Chin-chih speaks about the joys and sorrows of being a single father.

Being a parent is also being an educator, Bob claims that “
we are all surrogate parents” while Darren Schell tells his experience as a teacher in Taiwan.

Also read and listen to children’s words about their father and Gao Lao’s sweet memories.

In a time of elections (Taiwan, France, the US…), Li-Chun comments the debate between the two presidential candidates in Taiwan:
Air-conditioned Democracy. Bob analyzes the act of voting and Benoit Vermander evokes the issue of citizens’ participation in local development. Another topic, another part of the world: Deforestation in New Zealand by A. Kernaleguen.

And have a fresh look on our homepage where you can now watch
Bob’s and Mei’s video editorials. This is still a trial version, thanks for your comments!

Fathers and children


This month, Renlai/eRenlai focuses on family, education and more precisely, on fatherhood.

Here is a special thanks to two English teachers in Taipei: Natalia and Darren. The first helped me to record some of the kids she's teaching, the second kindly answered my questions... Listen to children words about their daddy and discover how Darren educates children with martial arts...


Or read my own reflection about fatherhood:


Fathers, where are you?


With the multiplication of single-parent families, it is more and more common to see children being raised by their mother. In fact, after a divorce or a separation, children are most of the time left to their mother’s care. Among my friends, I know only one who lived with her father instead of her mother after they got divorced. I was myself raised by my mother, only seeing my father from time to time. I think I got used to living with an absent father as well as most of my friends. That didn’t mean that they were not seeing their fathers or didn’t have a good relationship with them, it is just that the father could be less present without maybe disrupting drastically the run of events… It seems like the absence or the disinvolvement of fathers is a common representation of fatherhood.
Do fathers have a different linkage to their offspring than mothers? It is true that for biological evidences, the mother is more able to develop an intuitive relationship to her child. But for the father? As the father is first deprived from the feeling of osmosis felt by some women, how can he become “aware” of his fatherhood? How does the feeling of being a father grow and be nurtured inside him?
The mysterious link of fatherhood, and sometimes motherhood, is less obvious than what it would seem. In 2005, Belgian directors the Dardennes brothers, shot a movie entitled The Child where they try to capture this link, especially the one of fatherhood. Sonia and Bruno are twenty and they just come to have a child. They have no money, Bruno makes a living from small thieving and swindling. The beginning of the movie is already emblematical of the father’s absence: Sonia goes out of the maternity hospital holding her baby in her arms but Bruno is not there and she starts to look after him. Finally, when they meet, Jimmy, the baby, is a “strange thing” to Bruno who doesn’t show any special care or concern. At this stage of the movie, the main question that the directors also asked themselves was: would Sonia’s great love and affection be enough to make Bruno be aware of his son’s existence? And the answer was “no”. The movie reaches its acme when Bruno tells Sonia he has sold their 9 days-old child. Bruno then justifies himself by saying “We’ll make another one”, relegating his gesture to the most ordinary ones. To Bruno indeed, it doesn’t mean anything to have sold his own child as, to him, having a child didn’t mean anything more than having a baby carriage… The second part of the movie is dedicated to the redemption of Bruno to whom the buying back of the child is just the first step. And he actually has to save another boy in order to also achieve his own redemption.


 
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